Age: 23
Height: 5′9
Bust: 36
Waist: 29
Hips : 42
Weight: depends on what I had for dinner
Hair color : reddish "bronde"
Eye color : brown
Birthday : 17th of October, 1985
Hometown : Ireland
Relationship Status: Attached
There are times Dear Reader when you talk to someone and say to yourself this person is going to go far. Sitting down with Caroline Grey was indeed one of these rare occasions. Smart, witty, and absolutely drop dead gorgeous she has indeed made an impression on Your Humble Narrator. I am only too pleased to welcome Caroline to The Spanking Spotlight. Dear Readers please give this beautiful creature a warm welcome.
Hi Caroline, Thank you for sitting down with us at the Spanking Spot. Lets start with how you got into the 
spanking scene. I know you have done shoots with Sound Punishments and Northern Spanking. Had you been spanked before you started shooting and by whom?
Before getting into my current relationship I sort of alternated between periods of meeting people from the internet one-on-one and then freaking myself out and escaping into vanilla relationships. It was very stop-start. During that kind of random experimentation time I had some scary experiences and some good ones. One of the very good ones was meeting Richard Windsor in NYC years ago at the very beginning of my explorations…I think he was the first Englishman to spank me, and he’s so great. He can certainly dish it out! Almost two years ago, after another of my vanilla periods, I showed up at my first spanking party, and everything started for real. I met my boyfriend there and I never looked back. Then, back in March, I made my first video with Sound Punishment, and things picked up another notch.
Now in our discussion prior to the interview, You told me that you were quite the little housewife. Can you share with us about your domestic hobbies?
I am a bit of a housewife, although I’ve been traveling so much recently the house certainly doesn’t look like it! (that may also have something to do with the fact that "domestic hobbies" and "housework" are not always the same thing!) My friends tease me and call me "Madame Defarge" because I love to knit. I’ve got a bit of a short attention span, though, so anything bigger than a hat is probably sitting in my bedroom looking half-finished and forlorn these days. I’ve never been a fashionista, but I can sew just enough to be dangerous and have done bits of costuming for various community theatres and dance companies. Although that’s less sewing from scratch and more sprucing up old costumes with new buttons and trims and sashes and stuff. I also love to bake (especially apple pies: how June Cleaver is that?), though I’ve not made very good friends with the oven in this house and don’t trust it with anything daintier than biscuits.
Like myself you said you love to cook. What’s your favorite dish?
When I’m cooking for other people I’m a complete show-off. (Oh, let’s face it, I’m always a complete show-off!) I like to make impressive things with lots of complicated ingredients…the kind of 4 course meals that you need to go to 6 different shops for before you can even start, but that doesn’t always turn out to plan. After a few catastrophes I’ve scaled back. (I refuse to be spanked for burning dinner!) It’s a bit boring, but everyone’s impressed with a perfectly roasted chicken or fish, some rosemary roasted potatoes and some asparagus. Oh, but now we’re far away from spanking and I’m channelling Martha Stewart. Sorry, where were we?
I understand you attended the Florida Moonshine Party a few weeks back. How did you enjoy the states and the style of spanking here vs the UK
I love the States! I lived there until recently, and sometimes I get homesick, so it’s always nice to go back, especially for spanking trips. There’s not a "spanking scene" in Ireland so much as a general BDSM scene, so it’s great fun to go back and marvel at 100+ people all gathered in one place for love of the same kink. They don’t have spanking parties like that over here, and FMS is one of the very best. It’s much more of a pot-luck in that sense as well because you’ve got all kinds and styles of spanking: an all-you-can-spank buffet. My own tastes are quite specific–I love role-play, and I love school scenes, and I have to say nobody does that exactly like the UK. In fact, I can’t help it, even in the States I find myself getting spanked by Englishmen more often than not! I mean, at FMS alone I got smacked by no less than 4 Brits. So, as much as I love the USA, I think I’m on the right side of the Atlantic now.
Ok my Dear, back to spanking, Can you tell us a bit of what its like on the set
I’ve always been into the performing arts and I remember writing somewhere once about how I used to daydream that some day, somehow, I’d end up in a vanilla stage-play where I’d have to be spanked for the role. It seemed like a one-in-a-million-chance, but I thought about it all the time. Then, out of nowhere, I realized that I could be a spanking model. Acting where spankings are guaranteed? 
Sign me up!
Being on set is thrilling and it can go straight to your head. All that attention and focus is on you. (And the spanker, but you know it’s mostly on you.) This can also be a little intimidating, but everyone I have worked for has been so nice and encouraging. I’m always very high-strung right before I shoot. I’ve found that it often takes me a little while to settle down and get into the groove. That’s why it’s helpful when they start with a photo-set or two. It gets out the worst of the nerves and by the time you have to act you’ve established a rapport with the spanker and director and crew and you can disappear a little more into your role and start to enjoy yourself.
Making spanking movies is some of the best fun I’ve ever had, but it’s also hard work, especially if you’re doing a shoot that lasts more than one day. There are costumes and make-up to do, and it can get a bit frantic–I am not a very organized girl and the changing room is always knee-deep in discarded underpants when I’m on set. And while everyone is relaxed and focused on taking care of you and making things as nice as possible for you, you’re aware that at the end of a day this is a business and we all have jobs to do. You need to juggle your own enjoyment and emotions while making sure you’re being professional and getting everything done. I also wasn’t prepared for how sore I’d get–and I don’t mean my bum! (though that gets plenty sore…by the last film of my 2-day shoot I was 
practically levitating!) A lot of being spanked on film requires you to do things "naturally" that you wouldn’t naturally do in a spanking…like twisting around so your face shows, or holding poses for a long time while they get stills.
And no matter how much fun it is, it asks a lot of you mentally. In fact, the better the scene goes, the more it requires from you. In real life you might only do an heavy scene or role-play once a week. On set you can be doing 3 or 4 in the space of a working day, switching head-spaces and characters all the time. You’re also taking in the experience: playing a role, being whacked, having emotions, but still reserving a part of your mind for the technical side of things you have to be aware of: "where’s the camera, are my eyes open, how am I holding my legs, am I going to kick over a light?" Keeping those two sides balanced all the time requires some intense focus. I’m a pretty social person but it was a relief when Lucy from Northern Spanking told me it was okay to disappear with a book and be hermity during the down-time. The first day I couldn’t get enough of giggling and chatting with everyone else but the second day I really needed those little islands of alone-time to recharge and sort out my head. By the end of the shoot I was really sad that it was over but I also knew that I’d given everything I had. I was ready for an epic nap and a lot of cuddling. Now, of course, I am itching to get to the next job. (Producers, take note!)
Alright, Since you are the one going over the knee, If you could be spanked by any celebrity who would it be?
Hrm. Good question. Usually it’s the character more than the celebrity that I’d like to whack me. But we know all the usual suspects so I’ll go out on a limb and suggest a real person and a baseball player for once: the Red Sox pitcher Jonathan Papelbon. He’s six foot four, made entirely of muscle, has crazy eyes, and holy crow, he can throw a 100mph fastball: can you imagine that right arm? Yum. or as they say in the UK, "Phwoar!"
I have to ask where in the world did you find that 50’s style poodle dress you wore during your spanking at Sound Punishments? (you look great in it by the way)
eBay! eBay is a blessing and a curse. It can become a habit. My boyfriend and I have come to an agreement: I can buy things that catch my fancy on eBay but I have to get a big spanking while wearing them afterwards. It’s a win-win. But it occasionally makes me think twice if I’m having a spank-heavy week! And thanks for the compliment! As I said before, costuming is a love of mine, and vintage clothes, especially from the 50’s, are my favorites. It’s getting to be a bit of a theme for me. I made a little 50’s styled video for spankingtube with Richard Windsor, and I did a few 50’s photosets with Northern. Lucy helped me with vintage hair and makeup, and she’s a genius, so I’m looking forward to seeing those! I have about a half-dozen dresses from that era and I wear them in my real vanilla life. Though without the petticoats and saddle shoes!
What is your favorite Implement and why?
Ooh, these questions are hard, because in the best spankings "good/bad" and "love/hate" are so very close. And the answers always 
change, depending on the occasion or mood. But I’ll stop being difficult and just choose one. I’d say my boyfriend’s belt. When he uses it on me over his knee he takes ages wrapping and re-wrapping it around his hand, and it’s just so sexy–I love anticipation and I go weak in the knees when he gets finicky about things before a spanking, like that belt or rolling up his shirt-sleeve just so. And it’s really heavy but it’s been worn buttery-soft, so I know I’m going to feel it and it’s going to hurt but I can just keep taking it and taking it, and I love that.
How about your least favorite?
I don’t really like wooden paddles. They are so loud and I’m so sensitive to noise, it makes me twitchy and sets my teeth on edge! I’m probably the only girl in the world that complains about the *noise* of an implement over the feel, but there you go.
What is your favorite spanking position and least if you have one?
OTK, like most people, but I also really enjoy the psychological challenge (and the physical one, if I’m wearing high heels!) of touching my toes for a caning. Somehow it makes me feel very small and lonely and brave, and then I can feel very sorry for myself, which I love. Least favorite is the (ugh, I hate to even type it) "diaper" position. I’ve never been spanked like this in real life, though I did a photo-set 
with it. It’s embarrassing and seriously unflattering. It could make Tinkerbelle look like Attila the Hun doing yoga. Yuck!
Do you watch any other spanking models? Do you admire one in particular?
I love other spanking models! It’s hard to pick one. Amelia Jane Rutherford was one of the first models I ever knew by name, and, I mean, she’s the obvious choice. She’s how I look in the movies I make in my head! She’s so talented, funny, and feisty and so damn beautiful it almost hurts to look at her. Pandora Blake is also an inspiration: there’s one particular hard OTK spanking she took from Tom at GBS that was the epitome of everything that turns me on about spanking–I remember pointing it out to my boyfriend at the start of our relationship as an example of what I wanted. She’s the first model with a blog that I became aware of, and was so helpful and warm when I started emailing her. She’s gorgeous and has become a great friend. I’m hoping to work with her in the near future. This is starting to sound like a roll-call, but I also love Kami Robertson and Adele Haze, because they both have this way of looking helpless that just melts me. Rarely do spanking videos elicit sympathy from me. I’m usually yelling: "go on, hit her harder!" But I always just want to rescue those two and pet them and make them cocoa. Irelynn Logeen has the most beautiful hair in the business and an intense don’t-you-dare glare. I’m a big fan.
Do you prefer M/F or F/F spankings and why?
At the beginning I was very adamant about liking M/f only and I think it’s because that’s what I had always seen in my head when I’d been fantasizing all those years. M/f still the mainstay of my kink, but as I’ve gotten more comfortable in the scene I’ve started being spanked by women as well, and it’s a very different experience. Women have really interesting extremes of both tenderness and cruelty, and when the two are blended, that’s a cool place to be. And the rare time I switch I really enjoy spanking other girls, because it fits into my role-play mind better. I like to play a bit of a bully, and in my role-plays the girls I spank are my contemporaries. Whatever power I have is ill-gotten and abused. And something I should probably be spanked for later.
Doing my little research for your interview I happened across your blog Getting it Good And I came across when you decided to become a spanking model, and you weren’t sure if you were cute enough! My Dear Caroline, what in the name of red bottoms would possess you to think that? You’re gorgeous!
Oh, stop it, you’re making me blush. I think a lot of it had to do with my size. I’m a tall, solidly built girl, and I sort of had it in my mind that you had to be a fragile dainty little elfin creature to be a spanking model. Yes, Amelia-Jane Rutherford is taller than me, but she’s also Amelia-Jane Rutherford, so there’s that. And almost everyone has things they don’t like about the way they look, sore-spots. Dodgy teeth or cellulite or lumpy knees or an old scar. You can come to terms with them for yourself, but it’s another order of magnitude to say "Yeah, I’m okay enough with that that I’m going to put it up on the internet for everyone to see and comment on." I had the sense that by 
working in this industry you’re sort of offering yourself up to be some kind of object of desire, and it seemed presumptuous of me to nominate myself for that: I didn’t know for sure if there was a place for less-than-perfect fantasy objects. But one of the great things about the spanking scene is that there literally is a place for everyone. And to be a little shallow about it, I have to say that being a spanking model has done a lot to stroke my ego. I’ve never felt prettier.
Ok I do have some female readers, Can you give any advice to any women thinking about getting into the industry?
Yes:
1.) Email other models, and get to know them. Some girls are really busy, but most will take the time to get back to you if they can. So far I have found no competition, no jealousy, just a warm, lovely group of smart, funny, honest women who care for each other and look out for each other. They know everything, they’ll give you tips, the low-down on different producers, and a good sense of what a day-in-the-life can be. Also, there are lots of models with blogs now, and when I was thinking about it I went and devoured all the archives, and I can’t recommend that enough. It felt like I was getting leg-up, and I didn’t feel so lost when I showed up at my first shoot because I’d been able to imagine it in detail from what I’d read before. (These interviews are great for that, too. I read every single one, and imagined that maybe someday you’d interview me! Whee!)
2.) Take your time, find out what YOU like, what turns YOU on, what YOU would enjoy doing. There’s absolutely no rush. Look at a bunch of sites, get a feel for what’s out there. Chances are you’ll find sites that attract you more than others–those are the ones to write to, because a girl who is turned on by what she’s doing is automatically sexy. To be fair, modeling is not actually all about fulfilling your 
wildest fantasies all the time. Sometimes you need to let that go and just get on with the work, but it helps if you love what you’re doing and believe in the product you are making. You have to love it, because you’re probably not going to get rich or even make a living from it. Every girl I know says the same thing: whatever money we make from modeling almost always ploughed right back into the scene: more panties and costumes and spanking-related travel.
And spend a lot of time thinking about whether it really is the right choice for you. You have to be okay with never trying for any kind of main-stream celebrity (not even reality TV!), never running for office, that sort of thing. That might sound ridiculous or funny but when you’re young you don’t know what the future could hold and you don’t want to shut any doors you might need later. You can’t take back the internet, as many people have learned to their sorrow. The internet is forever. Like everything, there’s a cost-benefit ratio, and you have to sort that out for yourself. I love being a spanking model and I made the right choice for me, but every time I hear about some blogger or someone in the industry being outed for this or that I still have a little cold-sweat moment. You have to know that you can deal with that. Also, be prepared for attention of all types. A lot of it is really good and flattering and ego-boosting, but there are some strange people out there, and they’ll try to get in touch with you, and usually the creepier they are the more persistent they will be. Your privacy is worth protecting–only share what you want to share, because you don’t owe anyone anything. You have to know how to say no, how to just hit the delete-button, and how to keep a sense of humor about it. You can’t worry about people thinking you’re being snobby–you have to look out for yourself. The people in the industry are kind and protective, but in the end, you’re the one who is responsible for your own safety and your own piece of mind.
Are you spanked by your significant other in your personal life? Did he know you were a spanking model before you started dating? How did you explain it to him?
Yes, I am spanked all the time! Like any couple we go through periods where we’re playing constantly, and periods where we play less. If there’s a big shoot or party coming up we have to adjust for that. But it’s often, in any case. Modeling was a decision we came to together–we had several long conversations before I decided to go for it. I knew he’d let me do whatever I thought was right, but we’re a team and the things one person does affect the other. It was important to me that it was something he was comfortable with, and he’s been so supportive. He is my biggest fan and my entourage and my magic feather. He’s so patient: he absorbs all my pre-shoot nerves and babbling and fussing without complaint. He comes with me when he can, but if I go by myself I know he’ll be there when I get home to absorb all my post-shoot nerves and babbling and fussing, and soothe me through any sub-drop or insecurity that might come as aftershocks. (It happens.) I hate to be mushy but I honestly don’t know if I could model without having him to come back home to. He’s the best.
Is there anything you would like say to your fans out there. ( I am indeed one of them)
Fans? I am a fan of fans! Bring on the fans! I think I’m too new to have many fans (as we speak, I’ve only got one professional video released!) But in the hypothetical I guess I would say hey, thanks so much for liking me and my videos! The best is yet to come! And I’m always kicking around forums and blogs, so say hi sometime.
Thanks so much for asking me to do this interview. It’s a running joke that I’m the world’s humblest ego-maniac so this was right up my alley. I hope I didn’t ramble on too much!
I can say without a doubt Dear Reader that Caroline is an absolute sweetheart. I do indeed look forward to seeing her quite amazing bottom draped over many more knees in the near future. Perhaps one day Your Humble Narrator will be fortunate to spank her wonderful bottom. For now however I can only dream. You can see this lovely girl getting her bottom reddened on Sound Punishments and Northern Spanking.
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